We are beautifully wild and emotional creatures.
I actually just may be the most emotional person you’ve ever met in your life.
I. FEEL. EVERYTHING.
And as a hairstylist, what I’ve discovered is that at the most base level, all women are very emotional when it comes to their hair.
We hang onto it with a vengeance (“I want a complete change, BUT DON’T MAKE IT SHORTER”), we chop it off (“I JUST NEED A FRESH START”), or we conform to the trends (“But the straight across bang is totally in now, right?! That’s what I want.”).
Regardless, it is significant, it is meaningful and displays many things to us. We hide behind it with our insecurity (“but I’m single and men only like women with long hair”) or we chop it to the wind in a moment of epic declaration(“I am woman, hear me roar!!!!!”). But instead of cutting (or not cutting) our hair because we are emotional, why don’t we instead see our hair as the true opportunity that it is. Opportunity to accentuate our assets and downplay our “flaws”.
This is exactly what I did last week.
And I didn’t wake up with one minute of “buyers remorse” or look in the mirror and go, OH MY GOD I HAD MY BRITNEY MOMENT. None of that. Because I did it just for me this time. And this is how.
My face is the widest at my forehead and cheek area and comes to almost a point at my chin (can you see it?). SO THIS IS WHY my 25 years of trying desperately to rock a fringe DID NOT WORK. This is why I would stare at my fringe and short layers and know in theory the haircut itself was awesome, but for some reason just made me feel strange when I saw photos or looked at my reflection. It’s because I’ve always placed volume and weight at the widest part of my head, great.
WELL, KNOWLEDGE IS POWER PEOPLE.
What I decided to do now was place the weight of my haircut below my jawline to balance out the wideness at my temples. This involved two big steps, #1 cutting about 4 inches off of my hair. and #2 comitting to styling my hair differently. If I’m going to go without the fringe, one thing is for certain, I need to have a middle part which will break up both “corners” of my forehead and create a softer, more balanced appearance.
It’s brand new territory and I definitely didn’t feel like myself at first. I was used to my longer hair, I was used to, honestly, hiding behind my long and “mysterious” feeling side-swept fringe. This felt very exposing.
But you know what?
It completely works.
Not only have I gotten many compliments on my new style, but I also gained a new sense of indepenence. A new freedom.
Okay Sara, but what does that mean? (You might ask.)
What even is MY face shape?! (You might wonder.)
How can I make my very own fuzzy substance compliment my aforementioned shape?!?! (You might shout to the heavens.)
SARA ENOUGH ABOUT YOU, WHAT ABOUT ME?!?!?!
OKAY okay okay.
Let’s interpret that language that is your face.
Step #1 Pull all of your hair back and (in my experience, makeup always distracts my eye) have a bare face.
Step #2 Read through the following and really look at yourself. The reason I haven’t included photos of examples is because, personally, when faced with the choice of do I look like Audrey Hepburn or Reese Witherspoon, I’ll ALWAYS choose Audrey no matter what (Sorry Reese). So let’s keep it focused on the science.
[[DISCLAIMER: The following information comes directly out of Redkens Art of Consultation Toolbox. This is what the professional stylists use, I’m not just making it up!! …Well except for the last one, Oval, that one is ALL ME. You’ll see.]]
Symptom: Jawline is significantly wider than brow bone. Face shape becomes successively wider from brow bone to cheekbone to jawline.
RX: Shorter hairstyles with shorter layers and fringes work well. Create width at the temple area. If wearing longer hair, keep it well below the jawline and keep the layers away from falling at the jawline. Any width in this area will only exagerrate instead of minimize your widest part.
Symptom: Brow bone, cheekbone and jawline approximately same width, forming a straight (horizontal) line. Width of face is noticeable more than 2/3 of length creating the illusion of a short face.
RX: Maintain hair length below the jaw or longer. Asymmetric or uneven fringe and waves at temples will soften square shape. Height in crown creates illusion of length. Avoid all horizontal and blunt lines.
Symptom: Distinguished by round curved lines. Cheekbones are clearly wider than brow bone and jawline. Width of face is more than 2/3 the length.
RX: All lengths work well. Consider styling which minimizes fullness at the sides. Asymmetrical/diagonal lines create the illusion of length. Avoid straight, full fringe and horizontal lines.
Symptom: Brow bone cheekbone and jawline are approximately the same width, however the face is noticeably longer than it is wide.
RX: Mid-length shapes work best. Keep hair full at sides with minimum height. Create face-framing softness with fullness at back sides. Horizontal fringe diminishes length. Avoid shoulder length hair, unless graduated short to long and very full at the sides.
Symptom: Distinguished by short, angular lines. Cheekbones clearly wider than brow bone and jawline. Width of face is more than 2/3 the length.
RX: Keep style narrow at cheekbones, wider esewhere. Add fullness at crown and below ears to balance narrow angles. Avoid “bare” effects high at the side, ears and below.
Symptom: Brow bone and cheekbones are significantly wider than jawline.
Diagnosis: Heart/Inverted Triangle (ME!)
RX: Chin length or below. Fullest area should be right at the jawline. Avoid horizontal fringe or top-heavy looks. (No wonder my teenage years were so horrible.)
Symptom: Hmmm, none of these apply to me because my face is perfectly balanced and symmetrical.
Diagnosis: SHUT UP… just kidding. You lucky duck, you’re Oval!
RX: Do anything you want and know that we all secretly hate you. (JUST KIDDING AGAIN!)
So there we go.
I dare you guys.
NO WAIT. I DOUBLE DOGG DARE YOU (shits getting serious), to follow the science of your face. To embrace the art of it. Just try it.
I dare you to be open minded.
I dare you to be brave.
Please tell me what happens! Send me the photos to prove me wrong (haha, tricked you, you won’t prove me wrong!) or show off your new look! Send me your questions and comments. I want to hear about it, help you figure it out, and just be a part of it.
Hair is a journey.
So, cheers to good hair days despite our wild emotions, cheers to good hair days
even especially if our faces look like upside down triangles!
Here are some photos you sent me of your braids from last week!
They came out GORGEOUS and you all inspire me so very much.
Thank you thank you thank you for letting me be a part of your day.